For she is the only one who will truly understand when you say "my mom is soooo strange." Remember how blessed you are to have each other and when the day comes that you are fighting over a headband that you both want to wear to school know that i will take that headband and chuck it in the yard.
Trust me when I say you can rock a dress from forever 21 thats was $10 with the same grace as a dress you can when you buy one at Nordstroms. When the day comes and you are an adult and can purchase your own clothing from Nordstroms or where ever else remember if you feel the need to share that you bought it nordstorms you will look and sound pathetic and shallow. Trust me no designer clothing can make you a good person.
3. Having a mom who is a hairstylist does not always work to your advantage.
Manicures and monthly trims you can have on an unlimited bases, hair color-no! Just because my job revolves around woman (myself included) coloring their hair I will not put any color in your hair till you are 15! no highlights 1 or 100, no streaks of color, no taking your natural blond hair to a chocolate brown till you 15. You have the rest of your life to color your hair and I will not allow you to start as child, no matter what.
4. Enjoy dancing and do it often
Music and dancing is wonderful for the mind and spirit, whether it is the song you dance to with a boy for the first time or the song you dance to at your wedding with your father embrace that moment. Music and dancing can make any day better and help you forget your troubles, unless your dancing involves a pole whether you are trying to reenact a Miley Cyrus music video or looking into career choices know that at that time you are in a shit ton of trouble because your mother will be pulling you off the pole by your hair no matter how old you are.
5. Teach your brothers to dance.
They both are going to need your guidance in so many ways growing up. They are lucky to have you both to teach them how to dance even when they say they aren't listening or they don't care, they do, trust me. Many men would love to of had sisters who could of taught them some moves so they wouldn't look like they have 2 left feet on the dance floor. Your brothers are going to need your guidance growing up whether is it what is appropriate to wear on a first date, to what wedding ring to pick for your future sister in law. enjoy these moments with them, and try to keep the giggles to minimum. No boy likes to be laughed at when they dance...or when they are buying a wedding ring.
6. I will be your friend but I am your mother first.
Please know that you can tell me anything (and know that even if you tell me not to tell your father I will be telling him because we are on the same team me and him). I will wipe your eyes at your first heartbreak and I will cheer you up after "your most embarrassing day" (trust me you will have many more embarrassing days as an adult than you do as an adolescent). Though I will be there for all those moments that does not mean I will be partying with you, wearing your jeans, or allowing you to drink in my home underage because I am your mother not your friend.
He is one of the best out there and I am so lucky to be his bride. I know you will grow up hearing me complain about how he didn't take garbage out or how he left his dirty shoes in the kitchen but just know that my love for him is a powerful thing. Remember he is the first man to dance with you, hold when you are crying, and make you laugh uncontrollably. The day you marry is going to be a tough one for him. so squeeze him tight at the alter when he "gives you away."
If you want to make me proud it will have nothing to do with how you look, what score you got on a test, or your amazing dance moves. The proudest you can make me is when I find out from someone that you were kind to someone less fortuante, whether you asked "the new girl" to sit with you at lunch or helped a lost puppy find their owner, moments like those my heart will want to expolde with pride at beautiful person I call "my daughter"
9. Don't break my heart, please.
There is going many moments in your life that I will break your heart and most of them will include not having a cell phone at 10 or a brand new car at 16. Please know that the only time when you will break my heart is when I find out from someone that you were cruel to someone less foruante than you. I will want to cry if I find out you were unkind to the new girl at school or that you neglected someone who needed your help. I hope that you are aware that I will be so dissappointed by your actions because I know you are a kind and sweet girl and I myself know the feeling of being that new girl. Oh Lord help you when this day comes because you will be spending many days in your room alone (because your grounding will be sereve) hating me for your pushiment but really you will be realizing you have dissapointed yourself.
10. I will always love you.
Remember when I am telling you no that I love you. When I say no you cannot have those designer jeans, no you cannot have purple streaks in your hair when you are 11, no cannot have a keg at your highschool graduation for your friends, that I am saying no to because I love you.ok, I will say it one more time so you hear it again, "I am telling you no because I love you." I know you will not see it at the time but one day you will. One day I hope you are blessed with a beautiful daughter(s) like I have been so you can feel the love I have for you.
ohh and p.s. the first time you have a hangover while under my roof I will not be leaving a glass of water and an aspirin on your nightstand and leaving you alone for the day, you will be getting up bright and early and washing and waxing all the cars in the driveway.
love you,
your mom
I will be doing a 10 things I want my sons to know also. I will try and not make 8 out of 10 of them about peeing in the toilet and not near, by it, or around it.
